Frankl did not survive the camps by taking other prisoner’s food or stockpiling toilet roll! When a prisoner stole some potatoes from the commandant’s store, the camp was given a choice to give up the thief to be hanged or to receive no food at all for 24 hours. All 1,500 already starving prisoners chose the fast. Each man would have suffered more to see his colleague hanged than to increase his own risk of death from malnutrition. The power to inhabit the space to choose their response was their very source of hope in the face of unavoidable threat. Frankl shows us that we are never powerless because there is always a range of responses, even if these are simply internal emotional responses. He shows us how we can inhabit the space that gives us the freedom to choose what it is we make of life in any moment, in the best and worst of times. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. And I will dare even to add something for clarity: unless we consciously inhabit this space of choosing, then we will find no growth and no freedom, anywhere else at all, regardless of our physical circumstances, virus or no virus, money or no money. And when we inhabit this space, we have freedom, no matter what. We may find at least one thing we can be grateful for or take comfort in and that gratitude or comfort is our choice. We may choose instead to be fearful, to panic, to take our hand off the tiller and abandon ourselves. Frankl is good to read at any time, but a time like this he is medicine and he is my prescription this month!
Here is a poem on the subject of choosing our responses:
In The Know
Definitely not, no
Absolutely no-go
Non-starter, blind alley,
Couldn’t
Shouldn’t
Wouldn’t
It’s no, it’s no
It’s always – no.
Waste of money
Waste of time
Waste of ink
Waste of rhyme,
Waste what’s yours
but don’t touch mine.
It’s firm, it’s clear
No, I won’t,
and since you’re asking
No, I don’t.
And on NO goes
As nothing’s lost
Except a word
A secret yes
Can just be heard.
Will I, can I?
Yes - I must
Another big word’s coming -
Trust.
Do I love you?
Will we cry?
Will we live
Until we die?
Yes, I’ll come
Yes, I’ll go
Yes – I know.
It’s you
It’s me
It’s yes
And yes
Oh yes.